http://captainawkward.com/2012/09/12/350-lets-crowdsource-some-feminist-sex-ed-for-frat-guys/
also, here's something about consent:
Consent is…
Non-coercive:
If you’re cajoling, threatening or otherwise trying to “convince” someone to
engage in a sexual act with you, you are breaking consent. If you asked 16
times and got 15 No’s and 1 Yes, you still did not adequately obtain consent.
Also, you’re a weak individual.
Not fixed: What I mean by this is you
shouldn’t take for granted that after asking once for consent that you now have
consent forever. It’s not like landing a gig as a Supreme Court judge. You
don’t have consent for life. It should be continuously negotiated.
Dynamic: Related to the above note,
consent for one act does not necessitate consent for all acts. Consent is not
an EZ Pass. It should be re-addressed constantly for different acts.
Conscious: Yeah, I want to believe I
don’t have to explain this one. Bad enough I had to list it. But ok, yes, an
inebriated/asleep/passed out or otherwise not fully coherent person cannot
consent. There, you can’t say no one ever told you.
Unambiguous/Explicit: Assume all of the
following to mean “no.” — “Maybe,” “I’m not sure,” “Not yet,” “Kinda,” “Wait a
minute,” …I could go on.
Not contingent upon sexual interest nor
sexual arousal: We know. Blue balls are a motherf**ker. Still no excuse.
Neither your NOR the expressed/implied interest of any potential partners is an
invitation to any act. Also, neither your nor the (assumed) arousal of anyone
you might want to have sex with is an invitation. Yes, someone might be aroused
and still not want to f***. Crazy times. I know.
Not compensatory: Yeah, that
dinner and a movie were nice. Still not an invitation to f***. And if you
thought it was, you’re a world class a**hole.
Not something that requires a qualifier:
No one needs to explain why he or she is not granting you consent. No is enough.
Via: girlebony.tumblr.com
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